Where do you go to catch your breath?

And the shame ends up taking more energy than the actual action would have.

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By the time someone calls me, they’ve usually been doing a “clutter marathon” for a long time…decades even.

Running a marathon for decades is a long time (clutter or otherwise).

Focusing on clutter for that long can be stressful, emotional, confusing, and overwhelming. And many people have been running this “marathon” completely on their own for years before they ever ask for support.

So, when someone invites me into their life to help with their clutter, I’m always aware of that. I’m deeply grateful for the opportunity to help. But I also know I’m not standing at the starting line with them.

They’re already miles into the race.

And even though I know I can’t run that marathon for you, what I can do is support you along the course.

Sometimes that looks like being an aid station…offering encouragement, perspective, and a little bit of relief when the journey feels overwhelming.

Sometimes it’s more like coaching or training. I can help you adjust your stride, rethink your approach, or see patterns that are slowing you down.

Sometimes I jump in beside you for a stretch of the run, helping you move through a difficult part of your home or project that feels impossible to face alone.

But it’s always your race.

And the reason this journey can feel so intense is that clutter is rarely about stuff.

For many people, organizing is a personal evolution. It’s learning how to make decisions, trust yourself, release old stories, and build a life that reflects who you’re becoming.

That kind of transformation doesn’t happen overnight. It happens one step at a time.

So, if you’ve been feeling discouraged about your clutter, or wondering why it’s taking so long to “figure it out,” I want you to remember something important…

You’ve been running this marathon for a long time.

And if you’re still showing up, still trying, and still taking even the smallest step forward…that says a lot about your strength.

No one runs a marathon without support along the course.

And you don’t have to run this one alone either.

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Why am I talking about organizing when the world feels like it’s on fire?

There’s war, violence, unrest…and it’s in our faces, all the time. It feels strange to talk about closets and clarity when so much feels unstable right now.

What I keep noticing with my clients, as well as myself, is that we’re not just tired and overwhelmed. We’re flooded.

This world has always had chaos. There has always been suffering.

The difference now is access. We don’t just hear about things later. We see them instantly. Repeatedly. And in great detail.

We weren’t designed to process global trauma on a loop.

When we’re exposed to this much intensity nonstop, our nervous system doesn’t just “feel stressed,” it shifts into survival mode.

That alarm center of the brain lights up. Stress hormones increase. And the part of your brain that is responsible for logic, language, and long-term thinking goes offline.

That’s why you might feel scattered or frozen, and not be able to explain why. Why it’s hard to think clearly. Why decisions feel heavier than they “should.” And why so many of us are compulsively scrolling, even when we know it’s not helping.

It’s not weakness or laziness, it’s survival.

When the body senses danger (even digital danger), it prioritizes survival over strategy. And from that state, you can’t “logic” your way back to feeling calm or grounded.

And at the same time, life keeps moving. There are emails to answer. People to care for. Groceries to buy. Work to show up for.

The tension between staying informed and being functional is incredibly tight right now.

You care. Of course, you care. But caring and constantly consuming are not the same thing.

When I teach people how to organize, the first step isn’t buying boxes or throwing things away. It’s setting an intention for your space.

Because if you don’t decide what you’re creating, the clutter will decide for you.

You’ll move things around, react to piles, and feel busy…but you won’t feel clear. And your organizing systems may even feel a bit chaotic.

And right now, the world’s chaos is having the same impact. If we don’t pause and choose how we want to show up, the noise chooses for us.

So, instead of trying to think your way out of overwhelm, come back into connection with your body.

In the trauma-informed world, we call this “bottom-up processing.” It just means body first.

When the mind feels noisy, the body is the doorway back to steadiness.

Before you reach for your phone, turn on the news, or “make a plan”…

Pause. Because when we’re dysregulated, chaos directs us. And if we let the chaos lead, we get more chaos.

I’m not suggesting you ignore what’s happening. I’m asking you to regulate yourself before you engage.

That might look like:

Going for a slow walk and notice colors, light, and sounds
👉Taking three deep breaths
👉Sleeping with your phone outside of your bedroom
👉Shaking out your body
👉Standing barefoot on the grass
👉Eating something sour to snap yourself back into the present
👉Taking a “screen-free” hour

Regulating yourself isn’t avoidance. It’s how you stay capable.

You cannot make grounded decisions about a chaotic world from a nervous system that feels under attack or is stuck in survival mode.

Take one small, intentional step at a time. Fill up, and then engage with the world. You can’t pour from an empty cup.

Regulating yourself is the best first step in making a positive impact in your life and this world.

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As we walked into the room, they felt overwhelmed almost immediately. There was a lot to do, the energy felt heavy, and about 20 minutes in they said: 

“Maybe this is too much. Maybe we should switch to an easier project.”

They were feeling overwhelmed and getting ready to abandon the bedroom project altogether.

So, I asked them to pause.

Not because they needed to push harder or do more. But because the bedroom is one of the most important spaces in the house to approach gently.

The bedroom is where we sleep. Where we let our guard down. Where our nervous system is supposed to feel safe enough to rest.  

And because of that, it can be a surprisingly charged space… 

There can be relationship energy activated here. Or body image issues connected to our clothing may arise. We can experience sleep struggles.  

And often, we’re reading, scrolling, unwinding, or overstimulating ourselves without realizing it.  

So, when people tell me they want to “organize their bedroom,” I often slow them down. 

Because sometimes the goal of organizing isn’t to do a full, deep, color-coded overhaul.  Sometimes the goal is much simpler. 

Sometimes the goal is to protect your peace.

Right now, the world is loud. It’s heavy, fast, and overwhelming.  Many people are carrying way more than they realize, and it shows up most clearly at night.

If your bedroom doesn’t feel peaceful, you don’t need to “Marie Kondo” the entire space.

You just might need to remove one thing. 

Something that doesn’t feel right. One thing that disturbs your sleep. Or something that pulls your focus in a direction you don’t want it to go. 

That could look like: 

• Removing a book you’re not reading from your nightstand 

• Clearing the top of your dresser so your eyes can rest 

• Moving your charging cord to the bathroom so you aren’t tempted to scroll at night 

• Unfollowing someone online who activates comparison or stress in you 

• Unsubscribing from an email that hijacks your nervous system 

• Letting go of something, physical or digital, that no longer belongs in this season of your life 

This counts as organizing. 

This counts as self-care.

Protecting your peace isn’t indulgent. It’s essential.

It’s self-regulation.  Its boundaries. And it’s choosing what (and who) gets access to you.

So today, take one small step.

Ask yourself: 

What’s one thing I can remove to protect my peace?  

That’s it. That’s the work.

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I’m not just an organizing specialist. I’m a chaos specialist. 🌪️

And the chaos I see in homes mirrors the chaos we’re living in now.

We’re living in a moment where it’s incredibly easy to get flooded.

Being flooded is a state where you’re mentally, emotionally, and physically tapped out.

Your system is overwhelmed and can’t process one more input, so it freezes.

You might feel overwhelmed, scattered, helpless, or numb. Not because there’s something wrong with you, but because there’s simply too much coming at you.

We’ve never lived through a time like this. We have constant access to news, crises, heartbreak, and suffering from all over the world.

And that’s on top of working, parenting, caregiving, managing our health, maintaining relationships, and trying to stay afloat in our own lives.

That’s a lot for anyone to hold.

There’s a very narrow tipping point between being functional and being flooded.

On one side, we’re grounded enough to take action, make decisions, and move forward. On the other side, we’re overwhelmed, frozen, and convinced that nothing we do will ever be enough.

Right now, many people are living on the flooded side of the line…while simultaneously judging themselves for not doing more.

That combination is exhausting. But it’s not impossible to escape from.

Please know this…you do not need to solve every problem in the world today.

But what you do need to do is reclaim your attention.

Your focus is one of the most valuable resources you have. And everything around you right now is competing for it. Social media, news outlets, algorithms, streaming platforms…they’re all designed to keep your attention locked outside of yourself.

When your focus is scattered everywhere, you don’t have access to your full power.

Crossing back over the tipping point doesn’t require you to fix everything. It requires coming back into the present moment.

The present moment is where your power and agency live. It’s where clarity comes from. It’s where action becomes possible again.

For me, getting present often looks like taking a walk in nature. Not an exercise walk, but one where I look around and notice birds, trees, and sunlight.

For someone else, it might be a run. Or taking a deep breath and feeling your feet on the floor. Or singing your favorite song at the top of your lungs in the shower. Or putting your phone down and naming five colors you see in your room.

There is no “right” way.

You don’t need to be present all day. You don’t need to meditate for an hour. You don’t need to be perfect.

One minute counts. Five minutes count. Doing it imperfectly counts.

Because when you come back into the present moment (even briefly), you cross back over that tipping point. You move out of survival and back into choice.

And from there, you can take the next right step. Not all the steps…just the next one.

That’s how we regain our footing from chaos.

That’s how we protect our energy. And that’s how we’re able to care for ourselves (and the world), without burning ourselves out.

You don’t need more information. You need more presence.

And you’re allowed to start small.

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Every December, for as long as I can remember, I do a little ritual. ❄️ 

If you want to do this process together, come join us in the Chaos to Calm Organizing Community tonight! We’re doing a special Year-End Reflection Class, where we’ll release what’s no longer serving us and prepare to step into the new year with clarity and ease. 

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We were exploring our “Rooms of Doom” …those spaces that feel so heavy, messy, or intimidating that even thinking about them can make you want to take a nap.  

But instead of rushing to fix or judge the clutter, we did something different.  

We sensed into it.   

I asked everyone to close their eyes and imagine: 

• Where is your Room of Doom?
• What color would it be?
• What sounds would it make?
• What would it smell or taste like?
• What memories or feelings come up when you’re in it?
• What might it be trying to tell you? 

Because so often, when we look at clutter, we go straight to logic. It’s all systems, bins, strategies, and “shoulds.” But clutter isn’t just logical. It’s emotional. It’s sensory. It speaks in feelings. 

And when we sit down and listen, it tells us something beautiful.  

When Tricia shared what she discovered, we were all speechless. 

Her Room of Doom, a spare bedroom layered with boxes and half-finished projects, had the faint scent of essential oils mingling with a trace of mustiness. It felt alive with memory. It held the laughter and tears of past chapters, reminding her of her childhood craft room, a place where creativity and chaos coexisted beautifully. 

And when she finally listened, this is what her room whispered back: 

“I’m you. Chaotic, curious, multi-layered, real. Please care for me and love me. I’m not an outcast—and neither are you. We are needed, wanted, and loved.” 

That’s the power of seeing clutter differently. When we stop seeing our messy spaces as evidence that something’s wrong with us, and start seeing them as reflections of what’s real, everything shifts.  

Your Room of Doom might not be so scary after all. It might just feel like coming home to yourself. 

So, tell me…  

If your clutter could talk, what do you think it might say? 

Comment below and tell me. I would love to hear. 

If you’re ready to hear what your own Room of Doom has to say, and turn your clutter into a source of clarity and care, come join us in the Chaos to Calm Organizing Community. You’ll be amazed at what happens when you start listening instead of judging. 💛 

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A few years ago, I was diagnosed with PTSD. It was a moment changed everything for me.

It gave me language for experiences I didn’t know how to explain. It helped me understand why my brain worked differently. Why certain environments, images, or expectations would send my nervous system into overdrive while others would leave me focused and clear.

It’s been a long and difficult, but beautiful process. And as challenging as it’s been, it’s also given me my power back.

Because of how much my PTSD healing journey has impacted me, I’m currently in the process of becoming a Certified Trauma-Informed Coach. It’s one of the most in-depth, eye-opening, and meaningful things I’ve ever done…both personally and professionally.

Being trauma-informed is not just about understanding trauma. It’s about understanding our humanity.

It’s about recognizing that our reactions, habits, and even our clutter are often rooted in survival. And how what’s “messy” on the outside can actually be someone’s way of feeling safe on the inside.

The Link Between Trauma and Clutter 

In my 22+ years as a professional organizer, I’ve seen this connection again and again. Clutter often shows up after trauma—not because someone is lazy or disorganized, but because their nervous system is trying to protect them.

I’ve worked with clients who:

• Grew up in scarcity and now surround themselves with abundance to feel secure.
• Survived domestic violence and now keep their bedrooms cluttered because it feels safer.
• Experienced a break-in and now feel more protected by having “layers” between themselves and the outside world.

When you’ve lived through trauma, clutter isn’t chaos. It’s comfort. It’s your brain saying, “You’re safe now. You have enough. You’re protected.”

This is why it’s so important to approach organizing gently—with curiosity, not judgment.

Why I’m Becoming a Trauma-Informed Coach

For me, this certification isn’t just professional growth, it’s personal evolution. I want my clients to feel deeply seen, safe, and understood.

Trauma-informed coaching is about knowing how to work with the nervous system, not against it. It’s about helping people regulate their nervous system before they organize. It’s about asking what happened to you? instead of what’s wrong with you? 

I’ll officially be certified in January, and it’s honestly one of the hardest and most rewarding things I’ve ever done. It’s pushing me to reflect deeply, to heal even more, and to show up in my work with greater empathy, patience, and clarity.

Because ultimately, this isn’t just about clutter, it’s about care…for our homes, our minds, and our bodies.

Thanks for letting me share this with you. I’m so glad you’re a part of my journey!

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But before you click add to cart, I want to offer another voice. A quieter one.

Since 2020, I’ve moved seven times. Seven. 

And every single time, I’ve had to touch, pack, and carry every item I own.

And let me tell you…it’s humbling.

I’ve seen just how many things I bought with good intentions that I barely used, didn’t love, or never even opened.

Each move was a reminder that most of what we buy doesn’t end up changing our lives. It just fills our closets, our shelves, and our mental space.

So, this week, while the world is shouting “More! More! More!” I want to whisper something different:

🖤 You don’t have to buy a thing.

🖤 You don’t have to chase every deal.

🖤 You don’t have to prove your love or success through stuff.

There will always be another sale. But your peace of mind (and your space) is worth far more than anything in a shopping cart.

So if you need permission to sit this one out, here it is.

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